Conscious Power Play

BDSMbodied

for the curious couple ready to deepen your intimacy, explore your taboos, and awaken your most exhilarating erotic lives through the vulnerability of (power) play.

When couples approach me feeling distant, misaligned, or like something’s “off” in their relationship, there’s often a hidden factor at play: an unconscious power imbalance. Though it can be hard to pinpoint, it often manifests in subtle ways that gradually chip away at intimacy, leaving that niggling feeling that the passion is waning.

This issue can show up in many ways, from wishing your partner would take more initiative, to struggling with confidence in bed, to recurring petty fights, fear of criticism, withdrawal of intimacy, and more…   

What does it take to reignite the spark?

So many modern couples have done the work, from couples counselling, to practicing non-violent communication, to reading all the top relationship books, and more, but are still left unsatisfied in bed. What gives?

What I’ve discovered as a Somatica trained intimacy and relationship coach is that your secret fantasies hold the key, and your body knows the way to your most epic love life.

If you’re hiding your deeper (more kinky) desires under layers of cultural conditioning, trauma, shame, religious upbringing, and gender norms, then no amount of eye-gazing or romantic weekends away will give you the spine-curling, soul-unlocking pleasure you sense is possible for you.

The stakes are high.

If you and your partner have differing desires and libidos, carry blocks around sharing or accepting each other’s kinks and fantasies, or lack polarity or confidence in bed, these are the kinds of problems that lead to stagnant sexual energy, buried shame, resentment, infidelity, unhappy marriages, separation, and yup, even divorce.

You’d love nothing more than to share your deepest erotic desires with the person you love most.

And it matters because sex provides so much more than just ‘getting off’. It opens us to deeper intimacy, higher states of love, and clears out stagnant energy in every part of our lives.

* INTRODUCING *

BDSMbodied

Conscious Power Play

A group or private weekend workshop (you choose) where you and your partner can safely and confidently explore polarity and power dynamics, somatically shifting your intimacy paradigm toward the kind of mind-blowing, heart-opening sex that makes you feel thankful to be alive.

Instead of stagnant and unsatisfying, what if your sex life began to look like…

  • As a sub

    You return home from dinner, your S.O. tells you to go to the bedroom, undress, kneel on a pillow at the end of the bed, and wait, making you quiver in anticipation of what they're planning for you.

  • As a Dom

    You get home from a long day of work, and baby is waiting for you wearing nothing but an apron. She sensually crawls over to you, removes your pants and offers you oral sex as you take off your jacket.

  • As a sub

    You drift off into a blissful sub-space as Mistress masterfully glides ropes across your body, tying you into her favourite compromising position, and has her way with you, toys in hand.

  • As a Dom

    You feel your little slut trusting you and opening to deeper levels of surrender under your care, and your love deepens as your confidence (and the polarity between you) grows.

You both feel a new spring in your step, shedding your blocks and inhibitions, blossoming out of your shells, and becoming the confident, playful lovers you were always meant to be.

“Jess is amazing to work with! My husband and I have been seeing her for about a month now and she’s been helping us so much!! She’s easy to talk to and has a great approach to dealing with some hard and sensitive topics. I look forward to seeing her every week!”

— Calista E.

Introducing
BDSMbodied

Conscious

Power Play

This is not your typical BDSM for Beginners workshop.

Conscious Power Play is a trauma-informed, body-led pathway to deeper intimacy, trust, and personal growth — where you learn how to cultivate the kind of mind-blowing, heart-opening sex that makes you feel thankful to be alive.

It’s a group or private weekend workshop (you choose) where you and your partner can safely and confidently explore polarity and power dynamics — guided by a highly attuned somatic sex and intimacy coach (hi — that’s me, Jess!).

Come learn the tools, guidance, and safe practices you need to master the transformative practice of power play (aka dominance and submission) and create a love story that feels uniquely, thrillingly yours.

“One aspect that I love the most about Jess’ work is that it is Somatic. This skill, to be in tune with how my body feels, what it needs, and guiding it towards the state I want to be in, has been revolutionary for me. It has improved so many aspects of my life.

Romantically, I am more direct and empowered in my desire while also being able to both respect and express boundaries. Truly, I can say that working with Jess has changed my life for the better.”

— Gabriel L.

WHAT YOU’LL GAIN

In this immersive 2-day experience, you’ll:

  • Uncover what you truly want from BDSM and how to align your goals with your partner’s.

  • Master the art of negotiating desires and boundaries before, during, and after any play to ensure you’re always on the same page.

  • Learn simple opening and closing practices to make your sub feel emotionally and physically safe.

  • Uncover and release the unconscious stories that keep you from confidently embracing your desires.

  • Explore your unique Dom/Sub flavor—are you a nurturing Dom, a sadist, a baby girl, a submissive brat, or something else entirely?

  • Gain confidence by understanding safety protocols, avoiding ruptures, and learning how to navigate triggers and trauma.

  • When you step into power play, your sexual polarity is naturally heightened, bringing more electricity and magnetism to your sexual encounters.

  • Build a sex life that meets both of your core erotic desires and bridges any gaps or differences.

This isn’t just about “kink.” It’s about deepening your connection, building unshakeable trust, and creating the most epic erotic life you can imagine — together.

Program Breakdown

    • [Private Workshop] 30-minute intro call to set the stage & answer any questions.

    • Reflective homework to explore your sexual history, desires, fears, and judgments.

    • Grounding and creating communication agreements.

    • Exploring Core Erotic Themes and High-Stakes Moments.

    • Understanding shame, judgment, and trauma through Polyvagal Theory.

    • Practicing congruent communication: “Ask for what you want.”

  • A fun and sexy way to reinforce the embodied communication skills learned, including how to ask for and respond to desires with body language, empathy and openness.

    • Mastering safety basics: boundaries, safe words, aftercare, and more.

    • Exploring kink and fetish: why we do what we do and how it serves connection.

    • Practicing types of touch, feedback, and pleasure-based touch.

    • Diving into Dominant/Submissive dynamics and flavors with interactive exercises.

    • [Private Workshop] A 75-minute follow-up session to debrief, solidify learnings, and plan your next steps as a couple.

    • [Group Workshop] Participants receive 25% off a 1:1 coaching session if desired.

Location

This workshop takes place at a private residence in Kitsilano where we can relax, free of distractions.

Is This For You?

This program is ideal for couples who:

Want to safely explore BDSM with expert guidance that centres your body and choice.

1

Want to explore their edges to create deeper intimacy and trust in their relationship.

2

Are ready to go beyond the superficial to uncover and fulfill their core erotic desires.

3

Value clear communication, mutual respect, and sex positivity in their intimate life.

4

This program may not be not a fit if:

You are actively dealing with acute trauma that would be better served in therapy.

1

You have deeper issues in your relationship (or generally feel unsafe with one another).

2

Your partner is not on board (I’m happy to answer any questions they might have).

3

You want to jump straight into impact and ropes, without building the foundations.*

4

*Foundations include safety, trust, and understanding of each other’s boundaries, desires, and core erotic themes (impact play comes in Level 2, but Level 1 is the pre-requisite).

“… deep erotic truths do not reveal themselves to judgmental eyes and nonaccepting hearts.”

—  Jack Morin (The Erotic Mind)

This isn’t your average BDSM workshop—it’s a commitment to your relationship’s growth and erotic potential. ❤️‍🔥

Hi, I’m Jess.

Meet your guide

As a self proclaimed muggle-turned-wizard, I’ve spent the last five years deeply evolving into the person in front of you.  Queer, Embodied, Ambiamorous, and Kinky.

After leaving a corporate career, marriage, and lifestyle that were no longer serving me, I have embraced my true journey as a Somatic Sex and Intimacy Coach. When I realized how much more fulfilling my life felt, I wanted to help others by creating a space where they could heal and grow within their own intimate lives.

I became a Somatica® Trained Sex and Relationship Coach at the Somatica Institute and also studied with the Institute of Somatic Sexology. My recent studies also include the Somatica® Couples Training, BDSM training, ‘Beyond Consent’ with Mischa Byruck, and Somagetic Practitioner Training. 

So much of my transformation came as a result of my studies and the tools and insights I gained through my training, sexual exploration, and self-care practices. Now I want to pass these tools on to you so you can live a life full of embodied passion, intentional connection, and mind-blowing intimacy.

My role as your Somatic Intimacy coach is to teach you the language of your body’s inherent wisdom and safely stretch your sexual and relational edges — without threatening the love, trust, and intimacy you already share with your partner.

“Jessica is a wonderful guide to the mind and body. She meets you where you’re at while inviting you to go deeper to connect with your body. She has supported me greatly in helping me define my desires and boundaries as I evolve in my relationships in life.  She has great tools to support the growth of your relationship with yourself.”

— Bailey R.

* INTRODUCING *

BDSMbodied:

Conscious Power Play

There are 3 ways to play→

Private Workshop

Receive my undivided attention by booking your own private weekend workshop where you and your partner can go at your own pace, feel safer sharing intimate details privately, work through more sensitive issues, and enjoy my personalized private coaching.

Get started with a $500 deposit

+ $1,350 due before your weekend

—or—

$2,000 $1,750 upfront

Group Workshop

Gift yourselves a unique experience to deepen & celebrate your connection. Come join me IRL alongside other curious couples for an intimate weekend workshop at a private residence in Kitsilano, Vancouver from 10am–4pm each day, with a 1hr lunch break.

Feb 15th & 16th
Postponed

$799

—per couple—
*space is limited to 6 couples

Self-Guided Course

Experience this workshop at your own pace and in the privacy of your own home. This online format will also make this workshop accessible to those not local to the Greater Vancouver Area.

If there is sufficient interest, I will launch this course, featuring ~12 hours of content, self-reflection exercises, and guided date nights.

First 10 people pay only:

$347 $297

JOIN THE WAITLIST

Thank you for your interest.

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Still have Questions?

FAQ

    • This workshop is very somatic in nature, meaning I am deeply trained to support you to feel into your own body’s wisdom and use that as our guide to move at your own pace. 

    • This work is trauma-informed (see below for more info on that).

    • I will never tell you what kind of kink or power roles you should step into. I am committed to supporting you to uncover and step into your own unique desires, boundaries, and core erotic themes.

    • I champion all gender and sexual identities, never forcing you into some constrained box around gender roles and polarity. 

    • I believe in the power of conscious BDSM, where we explore kink as a tool for personal growth, healing, and deepening trust and intimacy. Yet, I don’t take myself too seriously. It can be fun to feel into all the levels of turn-on, shallow and deep. In my world, they all belong.

  • This private workshop is for couples, so unfortunately, you both need to be on board for this to work.

    If they’re willing, they can book a free 30 minute discovery call with me to get any questions answered. I have a zero hard sales policy, so I’ll never pressure you to buy.

  • My studies have been through independent and private institutions. This means I am not a registered Therapist or Counsellor.

  • Through my studies, I have learned to work with clients in a way that is trauma-aware. With clients who have experienced trauma, I utilize knowledge of Polyvagal theory, Somatic awareness, and Internal Family Systems.

    The somatic approach taken in our sessions is one that recognizes when trauma triggers show up in the body. I take an embodied approach to assist my clients back to a non-triggered state.

    That said, if you are actively dealing with acute trauma responses that would be better served in therapy, this program may not be for you at this time.

  • I follow the boundaries of the Somatica method, which means that clothing is always kept on in our sessions together, whether in person or online.

  • No lunch is provided, however you will have access to a fridge and kitchen (just no microwave), and the location is in walking distance to restaurants and the beach.

  • Level 1 is a journey into core erotic themes, trauma awareness, and conscious boundaries, laying the foundation for kink through self-reflection, safety, and embodied practices.

    Level 2 will be a deep dive into hands-on practices and scene building, with advanced tools and techniques for sensation play, bondage, and creating a safe, fulfilling scene experience. COMING SOON!

  • Both Levels 1 and 2 of this workshop are meant for beginners to BDSM, which means if you have at least 2-3 years experience actively practicing BDSM with your current partner, these workshops may not be for you. 

    That being said, clients may find the core elements of Level 1 may be the missing piece/s to their current practice. Often couples start playing around with new toys and roleplay, without having foundational knowledge of scene safety or their partners core desires for example. 

    If you feel that you and your partner have the foundational learnings from Level 1 already established, I encourage you to book a discovery call with me, to determine if you may be eligible to bypass the Level 1 pre-requisite. 

“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” — Joseph Campbell

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“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” — Joseph Campbell •

Are you ready to unlock your most epic erotic life?

Secure your spot today and gift yourselves the intimacy, trust, and passion you deserve.

This introductory offer is only available for a limited time. Don’t miss this opportunity to explore your edges at a great discount. Still have questions? Book a free 15 minute call to chat with me.