From Sleep Walking to Awakening: My Journey into Somatic Sex and Relationship Coaching
Welcome to Living Authentically: Personal Insights and Transformative Journeys in Sex and Intimacy Coaching, a blog series dedicated to exploring the transformative power of somatic coaching, intimacy, and self-discovery.
Through my personal experiences, professional growth, and the powerful methods I use with clients, this series will guide you on a journey to reconnect with yourself and others. Whether you’re seeking to heal past wounds, reignite your relationships, or simply understand yourself on a deeper level, these stories and insights may offer a roadmap to embracing your most authentic and fulfilled life.
You’re on Blog #1 of this series - So let's begin where it all started—my own path from sleep walking to awakening.
Nine years in a largely sexless relationship taught me more about myself than I ever imagined—and became the foundation for a career I never saw coming.
My parents and I pictured on my wedding day. Circa 2016.
Look at that dress - A life of tradition was never meant for me.
For nearly a decade, I lived in a marriage that lacked passion, leaving me feeling unfulfilled and bound, but not in a good way. My partner at the time didn’t share a strong desire for sex, often for a good reason, being that he spent most of our partnership sick, and I accordingly stepped up as caretaker. This power dynamic created a deep void in our connection.
As a bisexual woman, I also faced the challenge of suppressing a vital part of my identity, as compulsory monogamy in that relationship left no room for exploration. I was stuck in a cycle of unmet needs, convinced that this was simply the way relationships became over time.
Compounding these struggles, at 32, I had never experienced a full-body orgasm (which I had no idea existed at the time). I was disconnected from my own body and desires and unsure of what intimacy could truly feel like when it was full of pleasure. When we finally separated, it was both terrifying and liberating, a close relative reflecting that I had the energy of a bird being released from a cage. I’m sure he felt the same.
Stepping into the unknown allowed me to rediscover parts of myself that had been buried far too long.
Through the new connections that followed, I experienced what it meant to feel desired and to fully embrace my sexuality. I explored my kinks and bisexuality without shame and discovered the immense joy of truly connecting with others physically on an unrestrained and deeply embodied level. This wasn’t just about sex; it was about reclaiming my right to pleasure, to be seen, and to live authentically.
This awakening laid the groundwork for my career as a somatic sex and intimacy coach.
In my past relationships, we had never talked much about sex—what we wanted, needed, or were into, and I soon realized that my journey wasn’t unique—many people, especially women, find themselves in relationships that leave them feeling disconnected and unfulfilled. Whether it’s due to societal expectations, lack of communication, or they’re shrouded in sexual shame, the result is often the same: a loss of self.
My mission is to guide others through the process of rediscovery, helping them reconnect with their desires, communicate openly, and rewrite the narratives that have held them back.
In my work, I’ve seen the transformative power of these conversations and explorations. Relationships don’t have to be sexless or stagnant. Women, in particular, deserve to experience immense pleasure and joy in their sexuality.
When we uncover what we truly want and allow ourselves to pursue it, we open the door to a life of deeper connection, authentic fulfillment, and juicy pleasure.
Your desires matter, and your story is yours to reclaim.
Whether you’re navigating relationship challenges, exploring your identity, or rediscovering yourself after years of suppression, know that it’s never too late to awaken to your truth.
